Just because it’s not in my favor, it feels it’s not in my capacity.

Maybe I was a newcomer.

Maybe it never got easy for me.

Maybe I was deprived of the life I wanted to live.

Or anything that just did not feel good to me.

A constant desire to come out of the uncomfortable space I feel stuck in, keeps hovering over me.

The trouble is not that life isn’t getting better.

The trouble is, I anticipated it to show up in a certain way and it did not turn up like that. 

We all have such chapters!

There is either something that we don’t like about the story or there is a major missing.

We pass every single day with the hope to hop into a new chapter.

We wish to live a different story, the one that is blooming in our hearts.

But at the same time, the more we get glued to the desire for better days, the harder it gets to live the ones we are currently in.

There is a continuous chasing for something.

Something better.

Something beautiful.

Something that aligns with the definition of your happy life.

And when life leaves no option but to accept what it offers you, you feel hopeless.

Doubts begin to haunt you.

You keep swinging between where you are and where you want to be.

This is when the Suffering begins.

 The stage when you don’t want to be where you are and not reaching where you want to be.

But You still Breathe with a hope to reach your destination someday.

I know your eagerness to jump into the next chapter.

 But I also know you are here in this one for a reason. 

To the person who thinks life will never get better

When life gets bad, it’s a chance to become better.

Better Life is a myth.

Reality is, when you become better with life, Life gets better.

It’s in phases.

A demanding one.

And the easy one.

• The easy means, what you wanted to have, you got it. So, there is no discomfort and life look good to you.

• And when it’s demanding, you are placed in a situation that is both unwelcoming and uncomfortable.        So, there is a huge discomfort in this phase, and it makes life look miserable.

But If I give you the key to unlock your demanding phase, it will help you navigate it, without being dragged down.

That means the phase was not bad, it was because you never dealt with it, so it became terrible.

It’s not the bad days that harass you, it’s your inability to navigate them that makes them troublesome.

Being an amateur or a newcomer to a situation that feels overwhelming, you stand perplexed amidst it.

What you need to understand is:

A first standard kid if given a Math’s problem that is of a higher grade:

⇒Will it not crash his mind?

⇒Will he not need to go through different stages of learning to find a solution for the problem?

Similarly, when you are put into a situation that you are not qualified for, it demands you to understand it and learn how to deal with it.

And to begin with the learning process, you need to begin with making some tweaks to your thinking pattern.

• To think outside the box.
• Command your mind to find ways for dealing with it.
• And to embrace the discomfort of the new complexities.

Once you do that, you get one step ahead where you feel ready to deal with and not succumb to the situation.

When more than looking for hope for better days, you look for something that can make your current situation better, you get better with life no matter how it is.

Does it really get better, or do you get used to it?

It was never bad that it will get better.

You expected it a certain way and when it did not go as per your way, you declared it as bad.

So good and bad is not what life is, it is how you feel about it.

Does it really get better?

Yes, it does.

But only when you are willing to make it better.

If you sit and wait for better days, Life will only sweep into a delusion of better days and never the reality.

Life was never always where you are today, so it will not be here as well.

You are a story and the chapters will change.

Do you get used to it?

You don’t get used to the hard part, you either escape it or you stop dreaming of making life better.

So, what is it about?

It is about building a system that helps you understand the change that your Life goes through.

The change that is uncomfortable.

Life gets better when you get better at it.

Life is beautiful, but only when it is made.

The idea is not to see life getting better but you get better with Life.

What does Life look like?

The inherent pattern of Life is not Good or Bad,

It is “to change”.

• When you love change, Life is good.
• When you fail to align with the change, Life is bad.

That means you hold the authority to make life good or bad.

A picture of life would look like this:

This is how your Life is!

A change at every interval.

Some changes are easy, and some are tough.

When the change feels tough, Life looks bad and you start hoping for an easy life.

One that looks like this:

_______________

An easy smooth path!

What you want is a straight smooth line but when it’s straight, it’s no longer life.

So, what do you need to walk this zigzag?

IMAGINE…

You became the topper of the exam.

But you did not top the exam because the paper was easy.

You became the topper because you prepared enough so it looked easy.

When the preparation is rigorous, the exam looks easy.

When the preparation is nil, the exam looks hard.

So is life, like an exam.

You cannot change the pattern of life’s exams.

But nothing can stop you from preparing for it.

The more you look for a change in the pattern of life, the less are your chances to practice walking it.

And the more you practise it, the easier it gets for you to walk.

Driving is not called great when you drive on smooth roads…

It’s awesome when you drive smoothly on all roads.

Let me give you an example:

The Driving test is complicated.

Why?

It’s because if you qualify what’s hard, everything else becomes easiest.

You cannot change the change that Life is bound to go through, but you hold the ability to adapt to the change.

So, when someone says Life will get better, it does not mean it will get smoother, it just means you will get efficient at living it anyway.

Your Life does not get better by chance

You cannot hope to have something without you being in the thing. 

You might go through a crazy tormenting life and learn nothing.

It’s not the change that brings out something better.

It’s what changes you make in yourself to grapple with the uncomfortable situation is what makes life better.

Why is my Life not getting better?

Because you are hoping for someone other than you to make it better.

Because you are expecting Life to change its pattern for you.

You are wanting life to understand you.

When in reality, it is about learning to understand life.

Life will change and good days will come. This is not false.

But the Good days will change too, this is also true.

What’s important is not the change that life went through, it is what changes you made while you went through it.

How will my Life Get better?

Before you declare that life will not get better, find what makes you say that Life is not better.

I’ll start.

When what you want is not happening and when what is happening is not what you want, you feel life is not good.

Does it then mean, the day you have it will make it any better?

The truth is …

Life is not living the good and leaving the bad.

It is learning from the bad and reaping the good.

The first baby step towards making life better is to normalize when it’s not better.

As mentioned earlier, you have to accept life in its entirety.

Not just the good part but the one you fail to be good with.

Life was never just the white half part. It’s a circle of black and white both.

The white half is certain, but the uncertainty revolves around your participation in the black part.

When you get lost in the black half, Life looks miserable.

But if you can see suffering, the dark chapters, the not-so-good chapters, the unwanted phases, and the black half of life as an inherent pattern of your life, Life will not look good or bad but more like a changing season.

It does not destroy you because it turns black, you destroy it when you get lost in it.

The only thermostat that can make life better is You.

And it becomes better when you become better with Life.

Which one is better?

To have a good ball or to have a great shot?

Probably something that is in your control is better.

Depending on anything outside of you to get things better makes things rather worse.

So, you should be working on the great shot rather than waiting for a good ball.

So is life.

You can plan but you cannot predict it.

You can plan for 100 years but what is going to happen tomorrow will always remain unpredictable.

When will the black half pop up, it’s clueless.

Universe wants to make your life better but it will not serve it on your table.

It wants you to collect stuff, learn the recipe and cook it well.

The idea is not to give you the best but make you efficient in making the best.

When you learn to make things better than wanting the better things, you see life through a different lens: Neither easy nor hard but just as different chapters.