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Good things take Time

Good things take Time

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"I walk slowly but I never walk backward" ~Abraham Lincoln.

Good things take Time

 

 

It took 17 years and a difficult life for J.K Rowling to become “The J.K. Rowling”.

 

The astounding success of Harry Porter is one of the exemplary depictions of the beautiful saying, “Good things take time”.

 

Not a single great thing in the World has ever happened in a blink of an eye.

Because it does not take time to show the magic, it takes time to become the magician.

 

If given a chance, we would all love to have great success but will all of us be ready to take the hard ride that it takes?

We can all wish to be a Star but are we ready for the night?

Good things are not mornings after the night, they are altogether a different season.

We are all fascinated to have all the good things in life but only a handful of us live them. Not because only, a few deserve them, but because most of them fail to wait for them.

 

 

 

A little story “3 Feet from Gold”

The story will show you how most of us fail to get good things in life.

A man once dug ground for several months to find gold but as he could not find it, he decided to quit. He sold his equipment to another man who resumed digging from where the first person stopped.

And he found gold only after 3 feet of digging.

This meant the first miner was a mere three feet away from striking gold before he quit.

The moral is that most people give up on pursuing their dreams because the work becomes too difficult and takes a lot of time. 

When you dream of having a certain thing in your life, you visualize the grandeur of the dream but not the grinding of the process.

The fact that your attention is just on the fascinating picture you want, makes the process look harder.

 

 The secret is “It does not take time for good things; it takes time for you to be good at things.”

 

 But this does not make it any easier to believe and to keep working on things when results are nowhere around the corner.

 

 

Why it is so hard to wait for the good things?

why is it a challenge to be happy alone?

It’s hard because it’s uncertain.

We draw a picture of all the good things from the world around us and we start wishing to have them. But because we do not have the roadmap, we do not have the certainty, we do not have an estimate of the time, we feel restless and there is this constant anxiety to know where exactly these things are and when will we have them.

 Let me help you to understand this better!

Imagine you are new to driving.

So, driving every day to your office will make you feel relaxed, easy, and confident. This is because you know the route, you know the exact distance, you have an exact estimate of time and most importantly you have become comfortable with the road (the process). 

This means when you drive to a place that you are acquainted with, the driving isn’t hard.

Now if you are asked to drive to an unknown place, suddenly your mind will start racing with all kinds of anxious thoughts like:

Will the road be smooth?

Will I be able to reach the exact location?

How much time is it going to take?

What if there is a huge traffic?

What if I fail to drive somewhere?

What if I meet with an accident?

 

All sorts of such doubtful and scary thoughts will hover over you, and you will fail to have a smooth drive.

 

Good things are valuable. You will not find them easily. You will not have a clear road to reach them. 

And this uncertainty is the cost of having good things.

 

The second factor that makes waiting hard is that we want instant results.

The desire to grab things fast makes the waiting even harder.

And it’s because you have an estimate in your mind about how much time things will take. 

You draw your timeline for the progress, and you fix your attention on these timelines.

But you can never claim when things will manifest, so if you rush for the manifestation, the process will feel longer.

The core reason that stops you from waiting is that your attention is on the things you want than on wanting to work for them.

 

 

 

Why do all good things take time?

It does not take time; you get time to create good things instead.

Because Good things are valuable and meaningful. And you need time to build valuable things.

Now, If I ask you what is a good thing, what would your answer be?

May be something that you dream of.

May be something you associate your happiness with.

May be something that makes you feel light and lively.

 

But what if it does not feel as good as you imagine once you have it?

This is because if things do not have value, they no longer feel good.

 

Let me tell you the big thing.

It is the value behind the things that make them feel good to you.

Anything that does not hold value, no matter how great it is, the joy of having it will fade away instantly.

And the value comes when you invest your energy and effort in creating them.

 

So, the key reason behind good things taking time is: 

You require significant efforts, necessary skills, valuable insights and a refined approach to create good things. 

When you have a desire, it is something that you cannot afford and are not ready for, so it looks complex. And you need time to understand, learn and develop complex things.

Good things that have a lasting impact often require sustained effort over time. 

 

 

 

 

Toxicity of Instant gratification

Every successful person might come up telling you that “Good things take time”, but it will still not be easy to implement when you work and see no results.

It’s because you have a desire for immediate rewards. In today’s fast-paced world, the availability of instant gratification has become more prevalent. But it comes with its concomitant effects. It reduces your patience and fills you with superficial satisfaction. 

It makes you addicted to the instant pleasure. 

This may contribute to unhealthy behaviors and habits, as you seek the constant pleasure associated with instant rewards.

Instant gratification keeps you away from the real process. You are never prepared for the challenges and there is a tendency to escape the process when it starts getting cumbersome.

 

 

 

Power of Slow

In a world addicted to fastness, slowness is a superpower. Carl Honore

How fast you go does not determine how far you will go

Having a great speed does not declare a great destination, riding the path great does.

Slowing down does not mean working less or working slowly, it means not rushing for things.

Because when you rush, there is an eagerness to reach the destination which somehow makes you overlook the process. And no good thing comes without becoming good in the process.

Unless you learn to be patient, you cannot cherish the reward.

 

In the era of the internet, where speed has caught everyone’s attention, the power of slow is getting lost.

We assume the quicker we are, the better we perform.

But the performance is not about who created it first, it is about who creates it well.

 

The desire for immediate results makes you rush the process.

The truth is, it will never form gold if you don’t allow the burning well. You can increase the fire, but you cannot remove the gold before it burns well. 

The power of slow is the gold nugget that makes you ready for the good things.

 

 

 

You learn along the way

If there is a dream you have, the process is the teacher. 

Unless you allow the teacher to teach you everything about the dream you cannot understand it well.

If you don’t give time to studying, you might sit in the exam, but you will not know the answers.

Good things are like exams where only if you know all the answers, you are qualified. But if you haven’t studied well, you will fail.

 

Good things are not taking your time, they are rather giving you all the time to learn, understand, prepare and be confident before you sit for the final exam. 

 

Make the journey good, the Destination will be great

 

 Things that are worth having genuinely do take time. Be it a dream career, a relationship, or a better body, it all takes hard work and effort.

But when you are only glued to the outcome, it makes the journey miserable.

It’s like you have to go on a vacation to one of your favorite places. But instead of listening to the great music, riding with windows down, and stopping to enjoy the sights along the way you choose to rush to the destination by sleeping all the way and suffering through until you reach your favorite piece of land.

Knowing that your journey is a long one, don’t make it any harder on yourself than it has to be.

 

 

 

 

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pranjal
pranjal
5 months ago

Loved to read your blog. Worth reading. Best Wishes!!

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