6 rules that will qualify you for Tough!
Before I dive into those 6 rules that will qualify you for Tough, interrogate yourself! Is your situation troubling you more or is it your attitude towards it? Is it hard to live or hard to fight the situation? Sometimes hard to live situations suddenly come up and decide to stay.
The hard part is not how hard the situation is, but to step up from the comforts of life that you are accustomed to .
The happy mode is an effortless state where you feel things are sorted and demand nothing from you rather comfort you. And this is what makes you fragile for those tough arrivals.
A situation can bother you to a defined limit, but to discover your inability or more appropriately your helplessness to get over the situation is what will harass you all the way through. The solution is not always about eradicating the situation but actually understanding it rationally.
A situation is not as powerful as your attitude towards it. It’s so well put, “To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction”. Whatever life casts you in; you will have a natural tendency of reacting towards it. And the sad part is, “Harder the situation, bitter becomes the reaction”.
“The unqualified YOU for the degree of Hardships, is what makes the hard life, hardest to live and overcome”. It’s not the situation that becomes a problem; it’s you, the Newcomer who is hit by a thing not dealt earlier.
Relax, breathe and breathe like a free soul! No matter what situation you’re stuck into, assure yourself with a belief that you might not have that incredible ability to handle it but have the wisdom to prepare and qualify for it. All you need is the Acceptance, the first key step towards remediation.
Falling into a situation, no matter how small or huge, it will make you stumble at the very start.
The toughness of the Situation will not make you accept it but propel you to be out of it. But then, it’s not about getting rid of it and running away, it will all be about accepting it, being in it, learning it, growing with it and finally making you evolve.
You never planned for these situations, that you could smartly manage them. They just burst out without seeking your permission, leaving you alarmed and disarmed all of a sudden.
So if you are into a situation that has popped up into your life, making you clueless and galvanized, you got to find ways to make yourself calm, patient and happy while living with it (yes it will be hardest) before you find ways to get over it.
“It has not been there without some reason, something that was not planned by you but planned for you”. Just make the tiny step and embrace them, the way you welcome the happy ones. Happy times are for you to enjoy and hard ones are there to make you value the Happiness.
There is this situation and there are you. The point is how you guide your mind to respond to the situation. You might get trapped and at the same time you could chose to trap it, believing that nothing outside can ever break you.
If you are into a situation that has collapsed you, made you succumb to it, these 6 rules that will qualify you for Tough, might be a great help to bring your best reaction towards your situation.
1. You are still saved from the worst
Whatsoever happens in your life, a loss, a failure, turmoil, cruelty or anything that makes you step out from your comfort zone and make you fear of the unbearable life that you are cast in., just pause for a while and look at the situation with a different perspective and ask yourself,
What if it was worse than this?
I know that sounds weird. But imagine for an instance, when that one situation that has hit you without seeking your permission, how could you refrain yourself from a far worse than this one.
Instead of looking at the horrifying side of your situation, feel the gratitude of not being put into a harder one.
The moment you’ll drift your vision from brutally cursed to a feeling that you are still spared from the worst, you will instantly find the potential to bear and fight it.
On the other hand, making you drown in the situation will be like another hard hit. And this is the point where you, who were challenged in the first place, are victimized.
2.Just a chapter, and not the whole story
The situation will suddenly come at your doorstep. Getting away with it will not be possible than just to welcome it unwillingly. Just look at the broader picture of the situation you have fallen into and question your inner self.
Will it always be there? It might be a yes too. But then head towards the next one, “Will it always impact you with the same intensity”?
The inner calling will always have a big No. It’s going to be a phase that will fade and replace. It might be the end of just one chapter, not the end of the whole story.
No matter how much big or small the loss is, it’s going to fade away. It appears that you are stuck, but then time keeps moving and changing with every second. It’s there for you to shape up and qualify you for the next chapter of the story.
Like a guest, there in your home to leave and not to stay there forever.
3. Accept it
You have been a spectator for ages, seeing people around going through their losses and feeling sympathetic for them. Clueless, that life could ever put you too into it. You, the one who had been assuming, “I am happy always”.
It’s unimaginable that it has actually happened and you are the one now in the center of it.
The hardest thing is to own and accept that an unfortunate situation has struck you. The acceptance of the fact, it’s neither the spring nor the monsoon whole year.
Accept that something has hit you but not broken you. You are being demanded of endurance and strength.
Once the acceptance is there, your mind will push you to work towards it than squandering much of your potential in avoiding it.
4. Blame game is not a solution
The tendency is to fuss about the situation, to find reasons that why were you chosen for it.
This is the point when your mind starts the blame game. You start blaming people, conditions, almighty or you yourself too.
Making someone or something responsible for what you have fallen into, will never get you out of it. Rather you’ll be entangled in a web of targeting things, making you imprisoned.
No matter anything or anyone made you fall into the situation or may be the life itself, the point is about searching your cool amidst this turmoil. It’s about being brave and taking the responsibility of accepting it as your situation.
We are so much habituated with this blame game, and find it easiest to blame life, God, parents, friends, environment and you yourself too. All that it can do is, create a negative you that just will web you intensely into the situation.
Get yourself out of this blame game ailment, and things will appear more under your control. You will feel an intake of Endurance and patience to boldly live the situation than targeting others for it.
5. God has not been unkind
“Hidden meanings and hidden opportunities come along”
Neither an opportunity nor a success comes by mere wishing for them. Price comes along!
The easiest thing is to make yourself weak and put it as God’s Unkindness. This will be a never-ending lamenting that will land you to be there in the situation forever.
A situation that’s unbearable, brutal and hardest is with a demand too.
A demand to not curse the situation but think beyond the misery of the situation.
A different and wise perspective of perceiving it that this is the price that you have been charged for something unbelievably beautiful to come.
“Easy is what makes your ability dwindle. Hard is what that propels you to explore your ability beyond your presumed potential”. God has been miraculously Kind to cast you in a situation that will evolve you magically and help you find the opportunity that will explore your hidden unimaginable potential.
6. Imprint quotes by legends for Tough times
- “Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache, carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit” –Napoleon Hill
- “He knows not his own strength who hath not met adversity.”– William Samuel Johnson
- “The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.” – Chinese Proverb
- “Never give in. Never, Never, Never.” – Winston Churchill
- “Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”– Michael Jordan
- “The greater the difficulty, the more glory in surmounting it. Skillful pilots gain their reputation from storms and tempests.”– Epicetus
- “If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it”.– Mary Engelbreit
- “To succeed, you have to do something and be very bad at it for a while. You have to look bad before you can look really good”. – Barbara DeAngelis
- “You will have bad times that will always wake you up to the stuff you weren’t paying attention to”- Robbin Williams
- “Success consists of going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm”- Winston Churchill
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